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A sexy bachelorette party, in four lines
Three versions, and the question that comes first, with Revelwick cost estimates.
- A lingerie shower
- $40 to $80A head for a lingerie gift in the bride's size
- A boudoir shoot
- $300 to $600For the bride, a gift for her and her partner
- A sexy dress code
- $0 to $30One night in black, red or lace, with outfits guests already own
- Ask first
- The brideWhat she wants, and who else is on the guest list
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How to throw a lingerie shower or lingerie party
A lingerie party is a bridal shower where guests bring lingerie for the bride's wedding night and honeymoon.
Pick the venue and time
The rental house or a private room, planned for the part of the trip with her closest friends.
Send the invitation
Include the date, the dress code and a private link to her sizes and favorite styles.
Collect sizes privately
The host asks for sizes, colors and brands she loves, and shares them with attendees.
Plan games
Lingerie guessing, bride trivia and a fun toast. See the games below.
Prepare the menu
Champagne, strawberries, finger foods and a cheeky cake.
Decorate
Red, pink and black, candles, a neon sign and a photo spot.
Outfit the bride
A robe or a white slip for her, and matching robes for the girls.
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Lingerie party gift ideas
Cute and thoughtful gifts for the newlywed-to-be, chosen from her size list.
A bridal robe
A white satin or lace robe for getting ready on the wedding morning.
A honeymoon set
A matching set in her favorite color for the trip after the wedding.
Something blue
A blue garter or a piece in blue for the wedding day.
Silk pajamas
A comfortable, pretty option for a guest who prefers something less revealing.
A group gift
The maid of honor collects money for one special piece or a boudoir session.
A thank you note
Keep a list of who gave each gift so she can send thank you notes after the party.
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Naughty bachelorette party games
Adult games for a group that is comfortable with them.
Double meaning trivia
Innocent questions with cheeky answers.
How well do you know the bride
Questions about the couple, the first date and the wedding.
Guess whose lingerie
The bride guesses who gave each gift.
Drink if
Take a sip if a statement is true for you, with a mocktail option.
Naughty Jenga
A dare or question on every block.
Dirty Pictionary
Draw cheeky words against the clock.
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Sexy themes and experiences
Themed ideas she will love.
A male revue show
Tickets to a show for a fun night out. See booking an entertainer.
A burlesque or pole dance class
A class with an instructor, followed by dinner.
A boudoir photo shoot
Booked for the bride before the weekend, as a gift for her new spouse.
A lingerie and champagne night
Robes, champagne and the gift opening at the house.
A red and black dress code
A sexy, easy dress code guests can wear from their closets.
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Hosting tips for a lingerie party
Planning notes for the maid of honor and the hosts.
Keep attendees to close friends
A lingerie party can be a smaller event within the bachelorette trip or hen party.
Lingerie bingo
Squares with gift types to mark off as the bride opens each one.
A signature drink
A pink cocktail and a mocktail so everyone can play along.
Share the plan
Tell attendees what type of party it is in the invitation, so nobody is surprised.
Include the groom, lightly
Add a question round about the groom, or a video message from him for the games.
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Planning a sexy bachelorette party the bride will enjoy
Ask her, check the guest list, and keep it fun.
A sexy bachelorette party can mean a lingerie shower, naughty games, a show or a boudoir shoot. The best version is the one the bride chooses, with a guest list she is comfortable with.
Ask the bride privately
Ask her once, in a private message, what she would enjoy, with a real option to say no.
Think about the guest list
If her mother, future mother-in-law or colleagues are coming, keep the lingerie and games for the part of the weekend with her closest friends.
Keep it inclusive
Offer mocktails, let guests skip any game, and send the lingerie sizes early so nobody has to guess. For a louder night, see wild bachelorette party.
She chooses it, and her closest friends are in the room.
The sexy rulePlanning
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Sexy bachelorette parties, answered
Practical questions about lingerie showers and naughty games.
What is a lingerie shower?
A party where guests bring lingerie for the bride, which can be part of the bachelorette weekend.
Collect sizes privately.
What are good naughty bachelorette games?
Double meaning trivia, guess whose lingerie, drink if, naughty Jenga and dirty Pictionary.
Let guests skip any game.
How much should a lingerie gift cost?
About $40 to $80, as a Revelwick estimate.
Buy from the bride's size list.
How do we know if the bride wants a sexy bachelorette party?
Ask her privately with a real option to say no.
Check the guest list too.
What if her mother is coming?
Keep the lingerie and games for a smaller group later in the weekend.
Plan a family-friendly dinner too.
What should guests wear to a sexy bachelorette party?
A dress code like black, red or lace that guests already own.
The bride wears white.
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What to read next
The version about the night rather than the look, the entertainer question, and the games themselves.
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Where this comes from
Costs are Revelwick estimates. The ideas are editorial.
What the figures are
The lingerie, boudoir and dress code figures are Revelwick editorial estimates.
What is ours
The advice to ask the bride privately and to plan around the guest list is Revelwick's editorial judgment.